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My Problems with #StopAsianHate

With the murders of eight people in an Atlanta massage parlor taking up the entire news cycle (and, as I’m editing this, the mass shooting in Colorado), it’s been difficult for me to concentrate on personal finance. Many people assume I feel scared or angry...

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Live on a Budget Without Embarrassment

An ex once told me that I was impossible to embarrass. He was exasperated by this, but I took it as a compliment. (I couldn’t fathom leaving the house if I were as easily embarrassed as him). This lack of embarrassment makes frugal living easy....

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Why Frugality Doesn’t Work

The word “diet” means the foods you eat regularly. So technically everybody is on a diet. And your diet may not work for me, and it might not even work for you. And telling everyone to diet or about your diet, well that’s annoying. The...

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6 Surprising Psychological Problems with Early Retirement

Recently, I celebrated the second anniversary of the day I left my law firm job. And while it’s been tremendous, and I have no regrets about leaving, it hasn’t been complete smooth sailing because of certain psychological problems with early retirement. Most people question the...

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Why Friends Are Better than Money Experts

Too many people think talking about money is tacky. I’ll admit it’s uncomfortable and awkward, but anything worthwhile and unique has some built-in hurdles. Instead of talking money with friends, people turn to experts. Experts, however,  don’t much care if you succeed or fail. They...

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Values-Based Spending: Spend Money, Save the World

We often dismiss the effect of a single consumer’s actions. But our choices change us, and even changing one person’s world is very significant. And if you change enough of people’s worlds, you ultimately change everyone’s world. When we engage in values-based spending, we can...

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Why Women Should Pay in Relationships

It’s a surprisingly controversial statement – women should pay in relationships. The notion that the man should pay is engrained in our culture. People usually bring up reasons like the pay gap and tradition. The difference these days is that we can’t assume anymore that...

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Lazy Ways to Save Money

Often our goals are difficult because they require too many decisions to break out of our rut. But if we redesign our lives so that making good decisions is easier, we can become successful without any willpower. You don’t need self-control to brush your teeth,...

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Three Steps to Restart Your New Year’s Resolutions

January 1 is easy. You’re filled with excitement and hope. And you’re surrounded by other people with the same optimism. January 2-5, you might still be coasting on that optimism and the successes of your past. And January 6 onward is hard. Ok it’s all...

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How to KonMari Your Finances

There’s so much bad personal finance advice out there – so much clutter. It’s time you all learned how to KonMari your finances. Get rid of the bad advice – the tips that are wrong, or don’t fit you or spark joy in your life....