When the Woman Earns More
Couples often fight about money, particularly if the distribution of money is uneven. Money is a proxy for power, and power imbalances lead to disagreements. This money and power imbalance is why dating sucks for female lawyers.
Because of the pay gap, most heterosexual relationships involve a higher-earning man and a lower-earning woman. But in 29% of hetero relationships, the woman out-earns the man. This figure has been increasing for decades, but is still a small minority of couples. Because of that, society hasn’t quite figured out how these couples can best work. The newness of this type of relationship and the high likelihood that women lawyers will be involved in such a relationship can lead to growing pains.